These books and movies have been thoughtfully chosen for their ability to inspire, educate, and shed light on the myriad facets of end-of-life experience. From memoirs that offer personal insights to documentaries that explore the human spirit, each book and movie serves as a beacon of wisdom, fostering understanding and compassion during life's most significant transitions.
End-of-Life Care & Education
Books
ADVICE FOR FUTURE CORPSES (AND THOSE WHO LOVE THEM):
A Practical Perspective on Death and Dying
SALLIE TISDALE
“In its loving, fierce specificity, this book on how to die is also a blessedly saccharine-free guide for how to live...Tisdale does not write to allay anxieties but to acknowledge them, and she brings death so close, in such detail and with such directness, that something unusual happens, something that feels a bit taboo. She invites not just awe or dread—but our curiosity. And why not? We are, after all, just ‘future corpses pretending we don’t know.’” – NEW YORK TIMES
BEING MORTAL
Medicine and What Matters in the End
ATUL GAWANDE
In his bestselling books, Atul Gawande, a practicing surgeon, has fearlessly revealed the struggles of his profession. Here he examines its ultimate limitations and failures in his own practices as well as others’ as life draws to a close. Riveting, honest, and humane, Being Mortal shows how the ultimate goal is not a good death but a good life all the way to the very end. Named a Best Book of the Year by The Washington Post, The New York Times Book Review, NPR, and Chicago Tribune, now in paperback with a new reading group guide.
BOOMER BURDEN
Dealing With Your Parents’ Lifetime Accumulation of Stuff
JULIE HALL
A practical guide to advise Baby Boomers how to deal with the daunting task of facing a parents’ eventual passing as it relates to residential contents, heirlooms, and the often difficult family interactions and feuds that accompany them.
FINAL RIGHTS
Reclaiming the American Way of Death
JOSHUA SLOCUM AND LISA CARLSON
Josh Slocum and Lisa Carlson are the two most prominent advocates of consumer rights in dealing with the death industry. Here they combine efforts to inform consumers of their rights and propose long-needed reforms. In addition to nationwide issues, the book covers state-by-state information needed by anybody who wishes to take charge of funeral arrangements for a loved one, with or without the help of a funeral director.
ON DEATH AND DYING
What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy
and Their Own Families
ELISABETH KÜBLER-ROSS
In this remarkable book, Dr. Kübler-Ross first explored the now-famous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives readers a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient's family, bringing hope to all who are involved.
WHEN BREATH BECOMES AIR
PAUL KALANITHI
When Breath Becomes Air chronicles Kalanithi’s transformation from a naïve medical student “possessed,” as he wrote, “by the question of what, given that all organisms die, makes a virtuous and meaningful life” into a neurosurgeon at Stanford working in the brain, the most critical place for human identity, and finally into a patient and new father confronting his own mortality.
Movies
Stories About Death
Books
BEING WITH DYING
Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death
JOAN HALIFAX AND IRA BYOCK, MD
A Buddhist teacher draws from her years of experience in caring for the dying to provide inspiring lessons on how to face death with courage and compassion. The Buddhist approach to death can be of great benefit to people of all backgrounds—as has been demonstrated by Joan Halifax’s decades of work with the dying and their caregivers. A Zen priest and a world-renowned pioneer in care of the dying, Halifax has helped countless people face death with courage and trained caregivers in compassionate end-of-life care.
WAITING FOR THE LAST BUS
Reflections on Life and Death
RICHARD HOLLOWAY
Where do we go when we die? Or is there nowhere to go? Is death something we can do or is it just something that happens to us? Now in his ninth decade, former Bishop of Edinburgh Richard Holloway has spent a lifetime at the bedsides of the dying, guiding countless men and women towards peaceful deaths. In Waiting for the Last Bus, he presents a positive, meditative and profound exploration of the many important lessons we can learn from death: facing up to the limitations of our bodies as they falter, reflecting on our failings, and forgiving ourselves and others.
Movies
Nature of Death
Books
DYING WELL
Peace and Possibilities at the End of Life
IRA BYOCK, MD
Nobody should have to die in pain. Nobody should have to die alone. This is Ira Byock’s dream, and he is dedicating his life to making it come true. Dying Well brings us to the homes and bedsides of families with whom Dr. Byock has worked, telling stories of love and reconciliation in the face of tragedy, pain, medical drama, and conflict.
MODERN DEATH
How Medicine Changed the End of Life
HAIDER WARRAICH
There is no more universal truth in life than death. No matter who you are, it is certain that one day you will die, but the mechanics and understanding of that experience will differ greatly in today’s modern age. Dr. Haider Warraich is a young and brilliant new voice in the conversation about death and dying. Dr. Warraich takes a broader look at how we die today, from the cellular level up to the very definition of death itself.
Movies
For Children
Books
LIFETIMES
The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children
BRYAN MELLONIE AND ROBERT INGPEN
When the death of a relative, a friend, or a pet happens or is about to happen... how can we help a child to understand? Lifetimes is a moving book for children of all ages, even parents too. It lets us explain life and death in a sensitive, caring, beautiful way. Lifetimes tells us about beginnings. And about endings. And about living in between. With large, wonderful illustrations, it tells about plants. About animals. About people. It tells that dying is as much a part of living as being born. It helps us to remember. It helps us to understand.
TALKING ABOUT DEATH
A Dialogue between Parent and Child
EARL A. GROLLMAN
Why do people die? How do you explain the loss of a loved one to a child? This book is a compassionate guide for adults and children to read together, featuring a read-along story and answers to questions children ask about death. Talking about Death is a classic guide for parents helping their children through the death of a loved one. With a helpful list of dos and don’ts, an illustrated read-along dialogue, and a guide to explaining death, Grollman provides sensitive and timely advice for families coping with loss.
THE FALL OF FREDDIE THE LEAF
A Story of Life for All Ages
LEO BUSCAGLIA, PhD
The beloved classic from New York Times bestselling author Leo Buscaglia that has helped thousands of children and adults come to grips with life and death — a warm, wonderfully wise, and strikingly simple story about a leaf named Freddie.
Movies
UP
Retired balloon salesman
Carl Fredrickson, part
rascal and part dreamer,
takes to the sky by tying
thousands of balloons to
his house. Unbeknownst
to Carl, a young
Wildnerness Explorer
named Russell becomes
an unexpected stowaway
for the journey.
COCO
In Disney Pixar’s
extraordinary adventure,
a boy who dreams of
becoming a great musician
embarks on a journey to
uncover the mysteries
behind his ancestor’s
stories and traditions.
Grief Support
Books
A GRIEF OBSERVED
C.S. LEWIS
A classic work on grief, A Grief Observed is C.S. Lewis’s honest reflection on the fundamental issues of life, death, and faith in the midst of loss. Written after his wife’s tragic death as a way of surviving the “mad midnight moments,” A Grief Observed an unflinchingly truthful account of how loss can lead even a stalwart believer to lose all sense of meaning in the universe, and the inspirational tale of how he can possibly regain his bearings.
FINDING MEANING
The Sixth Stage of Grief
DAVID KESSLER
David Kessler is the world’s foremost expert on grief. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a fulfilled life, even after life’s tragedies. He coauthored On Grief and Grieving and Life Lessons with Elizabeth Kübler-Ross. In this book, Kessler gives readers a roadmap to remembering those who have died with more love than pain; he shows us how to move forward in a way that honors our loved ones.
THE AFTERGRIEF
Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss/p>
HOPE EDELMAN
A validating new approach to the long-term grieving process that explains why we feel “stuck,” why that’s normal, and how shifting our perception of grief can help us grow — from The New York Times bestselling author of Motherless Daughters. “This is perhaps one of the most important books about grief ever written. It finally dispels the myth that we are all supposed to get over the death of a loved one.” – CLAIRE BIDWELL SMITH, AUTHOR OF ANXIETY: THE MISSING STAGE OF GRIEF
THE FIVE INVITATIONS
Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully
FRANK OSTASESKI
Life and death are a package deal. They cannot be pulled apart and we cannot truly live unless we are aware of death. The Five Invitations is an exhilarating meditation on the meaning of life and how maintaining an ever-present consciousness of death can bring us closer to our truest selves. As a renowned teacher of compassionate caregiving and the cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, Frank Ostaseski distills the lessons gleaned over the course of his career, offering an evocative and stirring guide that points to a radical path to transformation.
THE WILD EDGE OF SORROW
Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief
FRANCIS WELLER AND MICHAEL LERNER
Noted psychotherapist Francis Weller provides an essential guide for navigating the deep waters of sorrow and loss in this lyrical yet practical handbook for mastering the art of grieving. Describing how Western patterns of amnesia and anesthesia affect our capacity to cope with personal and collective sorrows, Weller reveals the new vitality we may encounter when we welcome, rather than fear, the pain of loss.
VISIONS, TRIPS, AND CROWDED ROOMS
Who and What You See Before You Die
DAVID KESSLER
David Kessler takes on three uniquely shared experiences that challenge our ability to explain and fully understand the mystery of our final days. In the tapestry of life and death, we may begin to see connections to the past that we missed in life. While death may look like a loss to the living, the last hours of a dying person may be filled with fullness rather than emptiness. In this fascinating book, which includes a new Afterword, Kessler brings us stunning stories from the bedsides of the dying that will educate, enlighten, and comfort us all.
After Life
Books
DYING TO BE ME
My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing
ANITA MOORJANI
In this truly inspirational memoir, Anita Moorjani relates how, after fighting cancer for almost four years. As her organs failed, she entered into an extraordinary near-death experience where she realized her inherent worth... and the actual cause of her disease. Upon regaining consciousness, Anita found that her condition had improved so rapidly that she was released from the hospital within weeks—without a trace of cancer in her body! This is a book that definitely makes the case that we are spiritual beings having a human experience... and that we are all One!
Movies
Spiritual
Books
STILL HERE
Embracing Aging, Changing, and Dying
RAM DASS
More than thirty years ago, an entire generation sought a new way of life, looking for fulfillment and meaning in a way no one had before. Leaving his teaching job at Harvard, Ram Dass embodied the role of spiritual seeker, showing others how to find peace within themselves in one of the greatest spiritual classics of the twentieth century, the twomillion-copy bestseller Be Here Now. As many of that generation enter the autumn of their years, the big questions of peace and of purpose have returned demanding answers. And once again, Ram Dass blazes a new trail, inviting all to join him on the next stage of the journey.
THE TIBETAN BOOK OF LIVING AND DYING
The Spiritual Classic & International Bestseller: 30th Anniversary Edition
SOGYAL RINPOCHE
A newly revised and updated 30th Anniversary edition of the internationally bestselling spiritual classic, The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, written by Sogyal Rinpoche, is the ultimate introduction to Tibetan Buddhist wisdom. An enlightening, inspiring, and comforting manual for life and death that the New York Times calls, “The Tibetan equivalent of [Dante’s] The Divine Comedy,” this is the essential work that moved Huston Smith, author of The World’s Religions, to proclaim, “I have encountered no book on the interplay of life and death that is more comprehensive, practical, and wise.”